I follow suit, divorce!
Then, back to school and thinking for myself and making my own decisions without someone judging them. And I LOVE NOT BEING WATCHED everywhere I go! (like you miss a meeting and someone sees you at the store the next day and you seem well enough to walk, then you should have been there!).
I LOVE making the friends that RELATE to ME and not just lip service because we are stuck together in the same cong. So, my relationships are better, more tailored to my real life. I do not behave this way here and that way there etc. I AM ME ALL THE TIME good or bad and being living the truth that I am a human being created with flaws and trying to live my life the best way I know how. And when I say 'I'm sorry, or that's my fault I forgot' it's the truth! What you see is what you get!
Oh, and the best part, the perfect man I met, became best friends and now my wonderful supportive and caring husband. His family all are so supportive and loving (all 9 brothers and their wives, kids...) My kids love me again...
And I should not forget to mention... I found this board and you guys!
out of the box